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All’s fair in love and war?
Mar 7th, 2010 by ella
In my comment box, a friend asked:
“Tanong ko lang…paano kung pinana ulit ni kupido ang isang pusong may nakabaon ng pana, Ella?”
Mahirap sagutin ang tanong na ‘yan, my friend, but let’s give it a shot.
As I’ve said before, there ought to be a law. Bawal ang pana sa makulit na batang may kapiranggot na pakpak. Napaisip tuloy ako.
“All’s fair in love and war”
There is a quote from John Lyly, “Euphues” (1578), na laging ginagamit ng mga umiibig at gustong magpalusot…”The rules of fair play do not apply in love and war.” The phrase evolved into, “All’s fair in love and war.”
But there’s absolutely nothing fair in war. It’s cruel, tyrannical, violent, hateful, evil. There will always be innocent casualties as long as humans make war in the name of greed for power and money.
I know it’s prejudiced and a one-sided view, but the real casualties of all wars are millions of innocent children. In my book, it’s not even up for discussion.
What about love, then?
Kung may dati nang nakabaong pana sa pusong pinana ulit ni kupido, love triangle na ‘yan. In this case, one cannot PRETEND to play fair “in the name of love” or EXPECT to be treated fairly.
Laging may masasaktan, may masasagasaan at may masusugatan. Again, there will be casualties.
Ang puso ng babae, I’m sorry to say, dear friend, ay pang-isang pana lang. A second arrow, while there’s still one embedded in your heart, will definitely break your heart in two.
Sorry guys, but I can’t say the same for you. Kahit siguro limang pana ang nakatusok sa puso ninyo, may space pa rin para sa mga susunod pa ni kupido hehe 
What can I say? Men are polygamous by nature…their nature as “animals”, anyway. You know, to propagate their species? The best excuse ever, eh?
“When in doubt…”
Woman, (o sige na nga man na rin hmf), if two arrows in your heart are making your life miserable, dapat meron tayong weighing scale at gagamitin natin ito lagi.
In any love triangle, may panalo at may talo. But don’t forget to put the would be innocent victims in your weighing scale, if there are any. ‘Yung mga walang kinalaman pero tiyak na masasaktan.
Sabi nila, when in doubt follow your heart. Nah, not in this case, dear ones. I prefer the path of least resistance. The path where no innocent victims lay wounded in the aftermath of my decision. ‘Yung daan na siguradong AKO lang ang masasaktan at wala nang iba.
And when at last, you’ve made a choice, stick to it. Trust me, my friends, time heals all wounds.
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“Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that’s all. You can’t see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor.
But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it. Life has to end, but love doesn’t.” - Mitch Albom
ang pag ibig ay parang giyera..madaling umpisahan pero mahirap tapusin..kaya kung ikaw makikipag giyera sa pag ibig ay pumili ka ng isang tao na handang makipag giyera sa iyo hanggang sa huli……………
puwede ko bang malaman kung sa anong section sa national bookstore mahahanap ang libro mo..sa literary section ba o sa ano..kasi isingit ko sana para sa next post ko na available na ang book mo sa national bookstore..gusto ko kasi na isabi sa blog ko na mabibili na ang libro mo..may ipost kasi akong maikling kuwento o kaya tula at doon isabi ko ang tungkol sa libro mo..
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ella Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 9:25 pm
Hi Arvin dear,
Dati nakita ko siya sa recommended books section sa isang NBS branch sa Makati. Tapos laging out of stock. I think it’s safe to look for it sa fiction. September of last year kasi ‘yan inilabas.
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Love is a powerful emotion.
Love presents itself in different ways and form. Sometimes, it catches you in unexpected time, awkward places, and different situations and circumstances. But what I learned is that the ultimate essence of true love is unselfishness..self-sacrifice. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son”…
Thank you Ella. And yes, time heals all wounds and true love conquers all.
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ella Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 9:33 pm
Hi Emily,
Exactly. Sabi nga ni Lolo Hugo, parang akyat-bahay daw ang pag-ibig. Ang sarap ng tulog mo, sabay paggising mo wala na ang mga kasangkapan mo hehe. In short, you’ll never know when it will hit you.
And yes, true love is the total giving of yourself expecting nothing in return. Ika nga, kamartiran ang dating
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post ko na sa blog ko ang tungkol sa book mo na mabibili na sa mga bookstores..di ko na lang hinintay ang reply mo sa tanong ko..nagmamadali kasi akong maipost ang Panahon.. visit ka na lang sa blog ko ng makita mo at mabasa ang sinabi ko tungkol sa libro mo na mabibili na..thanks..
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ella Reply:
March 8th, 2010 at 9:36 pm
Ei Arvin dear,
You really are one sweet friend. Thank you so much. I left a message in your tagboard. Mwah
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love maraming anggulo ang love eh. Dahil sa love nagkakaroon ng peace, unity and joy, but dahil rin sa love kaya may mga taong nasasaktan at nasusugatan emotionally and physically. Ask lang ate, tama ba yung saying na pag nagmahal ka wag sobra-sobra instead magtira ka rin for yourself.
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“All’s fair” means there are no rules. You go to war because the enemy doesn’t play by the rules (of peace). If there were rules in war, then you are playing at making war, but it’s not war. You love because, also, there are no rules. If there were, it can’t be love; it could be something else, like a contract, or a commandment from higher authority, etc.
Maybe you can say that the aim of war is peace and rules. But can there be an aim of love?
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“O pag-ibig na makapangyarihan,
sampung mag-aama’y iyong nasasaklaw.
Pag ikaw ang nasok sa puso ninuman,
hahamakin ang lahat masunod ka lamang”
- Francisco Balagtas Baltazar-
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Sabi nga ng kanta, sana dalawa ang puso ko.
Ang hindi niya alam dalawa na nga ang puso niya. Kaya nga dalawa na mahal niya kasi dalawa na nga ang puso niya.
Hindi dapat maging ganoon ang pag-ibig. Sa 32 years naming pagsasasama ng misis ko, of course hindi na siya ganun katulad ng dati. At marami nang ugali ang lumitaw na hindi mo nga alam noon.
Pero kung babalikan ko ang nakaraan kung bakit ko siya minahal noon e nadoon pa rin ang rason, di naman nawala. Masipag at maalalahanin pa rin. Kaya kung may dumagdag man na ugali, basta, andun pa rin yung original na gusto ko. At kung sakali mang mawala, may isa pa akong pinanghahawakan na atas ng kasulatan.
Kaya nga maliban sa kamatayan kung saan ang tipanan ay kalag may isa pang sinasabi tungkol sa paghihiwalay ng mag-asawa.
Mt 19:9 At sinasabi ko sa inyo, Sinomang ihiwalay ang kaniyang asawang babae, liban na kung sa pakikiapid, at magasawa sa iba, ay nagkakasala ng pangangalunya: at ang magasawa sa babaing yaon na hiniwalayan ay nagkakasala ng pangangalunya.
Maliban sa marital unfaithfullness mayroon pa bang ibang dahilan? Di ba wala nang iba? Mareklamo at mapaghanap na lang siguro ang iba.
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…when we love,
we must be ready
to be hurt…
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